Jan Yager, Ph.D.
If you ask someone why he or she has not read a book, either a novel or non-fiction, in a while, the answer is usually “Because I just don’t have enough time.” That same person would have no trouble finding the time when asked to read a book or article for work. It’s what we might call “reading for pleasure” that falls by the wayside because work and other personal commitments seem to take up all our time.
What some of us fail to realize or simply forget is how much reading can enrich our lives.
Yes, reading a novel, a short story, a biography, a political nonfiction book, a self-help guide, a memoir, a children’s book, or even a poem or book of poetry, can be pleasurable. But it’s also much more than that. Continue reading 15 Tips to Making Time to Read a Book
By Jan Yager, Ph.D.
As a sociologist, as well as the author of many books on relationships —romantic, friendship, and work — I am sometimes asked if I have any suggestions for having a joyful marriage. Based on all the research I have done, as well as my own life experiences — I have been happily married to Fred for 34 years — here are my ten tips: Continue reading 10 Tips for a Happy Marriage
It’s been said that fear of speaking in public is as powerful a fear for many as the fear of dying. In fact, the two can be closely entwined. Haven’t we heard the phase, “He’s dying up there,” in reference to someone speaking before an audience?
Death and being frightened of speaking in public share similar attributes when it comes to fear. That’s why I make it number one out of 12 challenges that I explore in my book, The Fast Track Guide to Speaking in Public. In this blog, I provide brief insights into coping with tix speaking challenges. Continue reading How to Handle 6 Top Challenges Speakers Face
In 1997, I founded National New Friends, Old Friends Week to celebrate the new friends in our life, but to still cherish our old friends. A few years later, I renamed it International New Friends, Old Friends Week to mark the way that friendship has become more global, especially since social media has made it easier, and more common, to have friends around the world.
International New Friends, Old Friends Week starts annually in May on the Sunday after Mother’s Day (in the U.S.). I purposely chose that time because, for so many, once their mothers have passed, especially if they are childless, friends become their family.
Continue reading International New Friends, Old Friends Week: 7 Days of Friendship Celebrations
Jan Yager, Ph.D.
Author of “Friendshifts: The Power of Friendship and How It Shapes Our Lives” and “When Friendship Hurts”
- Reject the notion that “it’s hard to make friends as you get older.” Yes, some may be more “set in your ways,” but some may also have more time for friendship now that kids are grown and independent, some may even be working less, or even retired.
- Let new friendships evolve naturally out of the activities you do so get involved in going to workshops, volunteering, join, or start, a book club, take up a new sport, travel on your own or on a sponsored trip with your spouse.
Continue reading How to Make Friends After Fifty
There used to be a theory that a messy desk was a sign of genius. Now we see a messy desk as a sign of someone who’s disorganized.
Sometimes you get really busy and it’s easy for files and papers to pile up on your desk. That’s understandable. But here are some reasons you should take the time to clear off your desk: Continue reading A Messy Desk Isn’t a Sign of Genius, It’s a Sign of a Messy Desk
I recently conducted a workshop on “Self Management in a 24/7 World” and asked attendees to think about their job and what they really should be focused on as their priority concern. I then asked them to assess, honestly, how much time they spent each day on that priority task. One woman raised her hand enthusiastically and said the most important use of her time is to be prospecting for new customers. But when I asked how much time did she spend each day on that she said “Zero.” That’s right. The most important thing she should be doing was taking up none of her time. Sound incredulous? (She obviously hadn’t yet read my new book Work Less, Do More). Continue reading Making Time for What Matters Most
For this blog, I am reprinting the Friendship Oath I created that was initially published in my book about work relationships including friendships at work, Who’s That Sitting at my Desk? The oath evolved after I was asked a simple question about what should you expect in a friendship by an interviewer for the CBS morning show that we were taping. That question led me to create the Friendship Oath. We already have an oath for marriage that states what our expectations are for that key connection. Why not have one for friendship? Continue reading Dr. Jan Yager’s Friendship Oath
For most authors, unless a book is a huge bestseller, it is challenging to make a living from book sales alone. We authors often supplement our income by giving speeches on subjects we’ve become expert in, or getting hired as consultants and coaches. But why stop there? The idea of better monetizing our skills also doesn’t have to end with the written or spoken words, or service providers, such as coaches and consultants, especially if you have other artistic talents, such as painting or music.
Here are 25 ways to monetize your expertise: Continue reading 25 Ways to Monetize Your Expertise
Techniques for overcoming your procrastination about finishing your book.
Note: This blog is a shortened and edited version of a longer article on this theme, originally posted at www.indiereader.com
Yes, there are lots of valid reasons to take more time to finish your book. You’re really still writing it. You need to do more research that is vital to your book. You need to put it aside and return to it with a fresh eye. You’re exhausted from working all week and need to relax on the weekends, not work on your book.
But there comes a time when you have to face the music and realize that you’re actually putting off finishing your book because you’re procrastinating.
If that’s the case with you and your book, here are some suggestions that might help you break through your “finishing block” so you can go to the next step with your book, e.g. getting published: Continue reading 10 Steps to Finishing Your Book